We are in our series entitled The Fight where we wanna help you win the battles
that matter most. And today we are talking about the topic of mental health.
Now, in my experience as a pastor oftentimes that topic, when you say mental
health, there's like this awkward pause, right? And there's people across the
spectrum on their views of that. Well, today we're gonna try to break down the
stigma of, of mental health as well as provide help and hope for those who are
fighting unseen battles. You see according to the government statistics, here is
that 43 million Americans face mental health issues in any given years. That's
one in five adults. And then it's not just something that adults struggle with
too, that actually studies show that one in five Children under the age of 18
have a a diagnosable psychiatric disorder of some kind, especially in our
culture coming out of the pandemic, uh the the health within our minds and the
things that we walk through I think is one of the biggest challenges in the
church today. And growing up, we, we didn't really talk about it that much and
we wanna change that and we wanna make it open and, and honest and helpful along
with coming out of the pandemic and seeing so many challenges that people face.
My heart is, is really prompted to discuss this too because of the incredible
woman that I'm married to my, my wife Samantha Cragle. So not only is she
incredibly attractive to saying that throwing that out there. Um and Lee
pastor's wife and mother of three incredible Children, along with that, she went
and got the graduate degree and now is working as a psychiatric mental health
nurse practitioner. And so while she's wears so many different hats right now,
um I mean, she, she sees it, she's on the front lines every single week um
helping people treating people, uh everything and, and so the depth of which she
can care for people and the wisdom that she's brought to that really has opened
my eyes and heart to the needs of so many people in our culture, we tend to
think of mental health in very extreme ways, but actually, it's a very normal
thing. And so we want to discuss that and see often in church, we discuss the
bigness of God, right? For God so loved the world. God created the world that
God loves all that. We're all sinners like this, this bigness of God, which is
great. Today, we're gonna take a little bit of a different approach. And instead
of talking about the bigness of God. We're gonna actually zoom in and talk about
the nearness of God. And that while God so loved the world, God also cares for
each and every person and our practical lives and that our faith is not
theoretical, is not simply theological, but it's personal and it's practical.
And so if you're taking notes, I want you to write this down, that God cares for
the whole person. God cares for the whole person. You can think about it in this
way that for God so loved, the world understand is that for God, so loved and
you can insert your name for God, so loved me. And when we say me, when we say
us, it means all of you. Psalm 139 is a great passage that talks about the
sanctity of life and the intentionality of God's design. And so there's a verse
that's quoted often and I love that verse. But today, I want you to notice the
verse that comes right before it. You might not have realized this before, but
notice the verse, you're gonna recognize the very famous verse. But I want you
to notice the verse right before and see it in context here in Psalm 139 verses
11 to 14 says, if I say surely the darkness shall cover me and the light be
about me being night, that's pretty dark. Even the darkness is not dark to you.
And the night is as bright as the day. For the darkness is as light with you.
For you formed my inward parts, you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I
praise you for, I am fearfully and wonderfully made that last part. I praise you
for. I'm fearfully and wonderfully made. We, we like to celebrate God's
intelligence and design and creation and the protection of the unborn. And so we
celebrate that and we praise that and we preach that here. But I want you to
notice that the verse right before that actually talks about darkness and, and
the whole chapter talks about the, whether I'm high, whether I'm low, whether
I'm in a crowd, whether I'm isolated and all these places, God, you are there
and you've searched me and you know me and you are with me. And so I just want
you to recognize the fact this morning that even in your darkest moments, even
in your darkest valleys, in your darkest hour that God sees you and God is with
you. And in those moments, He looks at you and says, you are fearfully and
wonderfully made another famous verse. But if you actually understand the
context of it and the subtleness of it, you, you see that God loves and desires
the love back from the whole person, what's known as the great commandment.
Jesus says these words in mark 1230 31 it says that you shall love the Lord,
your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and
with all your strength and that the second is this, that you shall love your
neighbor as yourself. And there is no other commandment greater than these. We,
we plug it every week, but I just, there's gonna be a lot of notes today because
we wanna be really helpful and practical. And so I encourage you more than ever
to visit mission grove.info to download the notes and links that we're gonna
share because we're gonna give you a lot of resources. And so if you miss
something, writing it down, just know you can go back to that uh this week and
download that. But I want you to see something here. So the great commitment,
love the Lord, your God and love your neighbor as yourself. This is a great
commandment that we try to live out as a church, right? Love God, love others.
But I want you to see the sub context of that, that when God is commanding us to
love him and to love others, he actually names the different faculties that make
up the whole person. Here's what I mean. The whole person is made up of five
things. Number one is emotional health, love the Lord your God with all your
heart. God cares about your emotions. Number two, notice that God cares about
your spiritual health, to love the Lord, your God with all your heart. And your
soul. So spiritual health is important. How are you doing with your connection
to God? Number three, it says the love the Lord, your God with all your mind. So
he cares about your mental health and we're gonna spend more time on that and,
and focus our time there. But I want you to get this picture of the entirety of
what God's after and the entirety of just how much God loves you. Because number
four, you see here that God cares about your physical health, to love the Lord,
your God with all your strength. And so you see the emotional health, spiritual
health, mental health, physical health. And the last thing here, then he says
it's just as important, it's equal in importance and in value. And they're
actually connected together to love your neighbor as yourself. And then in
actually John's gospel says to love your neighbor as I have loved you, that
means Jesus cares about your relational health. And so when you see emotional,
spiritual, mental, physical relational, we get this understanding that God cares
about the whole person and everything that you are. And that's important to God,
which means you can also worship God as a whole person and we want you to be
whole people here at the church. So let's jump into this discussion here a
little bit more about OK, what exactly is mental health? Well, just a practical
definition coming from mental health.gov right here. Is that our emotional is uh
mental health is our emotional, psychological and social well being. It affects
how we think, feel and act. It helps determine how we handle stress, relate to
others and make healthy choices. I like to think of it this way. There's three
components to mental health. Well, number one, mental health involves
complexity. Number two, mental health involves chemistry. And then number three,
mental health involves our choices. So it's complex. There's chemistry and
there's choices. Mental weather is very complex because so much of what comes
into play is outside of our control, right? There are circumstances that happen.
There are triggers from events, there is trauma that comes in and, and no two
people are alike. You can have the same trigger or the same trauma affects two
people in very different ways. You can have the same diagnosis of a person and
treatment is gonna be varied in very different ways. And that's why it's so hard
to talk about because it's complex. Everything mixes together how you were
raised, what you experienced, what have you, what have you taken into your body?
Right? And, and drugs and addictions, things often comes into play too. But then
when you think about the trauma that you've experienced and the difficult
circumstances that have triggered things happen. So then your body then responds
either fight or flight to certain circumstances. You understand, this is not
just a take this one pill and it's done. This is not just have one therapy
session and it's done, this can be a very long road to travel with a lot of
different factors that come into play. And I think that's why we struggle as a
church to talk about it because there's not a simple answer. So the starting
point is just to recognize that it's complex. But next, we can see that it does
involve chemistry and this is where it gets funky with people because you know,
if you have a heart condition and someone gives you heart medication, we don't
think anything about it, right? If you have an immune disorder and you take
medication, we don't think anything about it. Well, then if you have something
chemically off or, or different in your brain and you take medication there, we
get nervous. Go ahead. But there is chemistry involved just as there is
medically, just as you would go see a doctor for your body. There are times
where you see a doctor for your mind. And while the first two things are outside
of our control or the complexity, the circumstances, then the chemistry, how our
body is made. The third component actually is in our control and that is our
choices and we can choose how to respond and sometimes we can help the
situation. Sometimes we can hurt the situation. And so we're gonna lean into
that a little bit, but let's dive in a little bit deeper. Here and give a
definition to mental illness. Now, mental illness is defined this way. It is a
disease causing mild to significant disturbances. Notice that it's a wide
spectrum here, mild to significant differences in thinking behavior and or
emotion resulting in the inability to cope with ordinary life challenges and
routines. There is a battle for your mental health when it impacts your
functioning and day to day life. If you're struggling to cope with routines or
rhythms of life, it might be time to talk to somebody about it. OK? And we wanna
get practical here too because I, I just wanna encourage because there, there is
a wide spectrum. Again, it's very complex. It's very big. And so mental illness
covers everything from anxiety to a DH D to depression bipolar, borderline
personality, PTSD and many others and, and stay with me. We're gonna actually
offer a free resource for you today to help give some frameworks and handles and
definitions to these things if you want to take offline together. And so there
are so many different things and sometimes they're combined together. And so
that's where we struggle like, well, what do we do? Well, I wanna encourage you
with a few things this morning. OK? If you're battling something, if you're
going through, you're afraid to tell someone what's going on. Can I just tell
you a few things? It is not a sin to be sick. You might be walking through
something right now that it is not your fault. You do not need to be ashamed. If
someone has cancer, there's no shame there. If someone is battling an illness,
we describe that person as courageous, don't we? Why don't we do that with
mental health? It is important to know that it is not a sin to be sick. That God
loves the whole person, meaning he loves you as you are. Another thing to note
is that your chemistry is not your character. How God wired you, how God made
you does not determine your character. You get to choose that your identity is
not, your illness is not your battle. I want you to know that God loves you even
in those battles that go unseen, right? My my son broke his hand like a month or
two ago, right? And that's a very visible injury, right? You see the cast, you
know what it is, right? You go through, there's no like shame in that, right?
But how many of us honestly have a little bit of a cast in our mind or in our
emotions, we're walking through something that's a lot more difficult to walk
around with because it's unseen. I want you to know that God sees you and that
it's ok and that your character, your identity, your value is based in the God
who fearfully and wonderfully made you and is with you even in your darkest
times, I also wanna say this here is that sometimes you need more than a Bible
verse, right? We understand this in every area of life when it comes to our
finances and education and work and treatment of other things. Right? We we, we
don't think twice about going to the grocery store to get food like we're
praying for food. Well, ok, you can go to the store, right? Man, I got a sinus
infection. You can get some medicine for that, right? We we go to the source, we
go to experts, we go to these things. Understand that Bible verses are very
valuable. In fact, that's how we're gonna close our service today. This with
some encouragement about the promises of God. So they're very valuable. But I
want you to know that it's OK to pursue help. Actually a healthy thing to do
that. We need to remove the stigma behind that and, and say that it's OK to talk
to somebody. You're not weak by saying I need help. That's a very courageous
thing to do. I spent time talking with one of my friends here uh Andrew who is
in the service here with us this morning, who he's had to walk through some
mental health challenges throughout his life. And, and so I, I said, I, I talked
with him for a little bit and I said, hey, what would you say to someone walking
through stuff right now? And he said, he told me he said, you need to find a
support system that might, you might be walking through something really tough,
but you don't need to walk through it alone. And he said, don't be afraid of
taking medication. There are experts, there are people who can help. I can speak
to that as my wife, as someone who does and has seen transformation happen that
gets people into regular rhythms and routines and, and, and seeing fruitfulness
in their lives. We don't need to be afraid of that. Then I asked him, what would
you say to loved ones who ha who have people that they care about walking
through a mental health challenge? And he told me the number one thing that was
helpful for him is when people would show up and listen, show up and listen,
understand that we're all human beings and that we listen to other challenges
that people have. And so allow that person to express and if somebody's going
through something or saying things that maybe outside of themselves, understand
that it's not a personal thing. It's a, it's a response to something. And so
it's amazing how far you can get by just leaning in and listening to someone to
be present with them. And then the last thing I asked the Andrew, I said, how,
how has your experience been with church and mental health? He says, well, to be
frank, not great, people don't want to talk about it and people pull themselves
away from issues. And so I said so well. And then why is it if, if people have
kind of pushed you away from certain things, why is it that you still come to
church? And I loved his response. And he said these words, he said, why come?
Because God never changes? And people can grow there again. God never changes
and people can grow. And so there's hope for you, there's hope for your loved
ones and lean into that and invite God into that battle with you. And I think
you'll see amazing things. Now, let's get real practical here again. We wanna
remove the stigma and then we wanna offer some help and hope this morning. And
so let me share with you just three steps. You can take just practical steps if
you feel like you might be walking through one of these battles. OK? Number one
is to simply acknowledge that something is off, something is off, you know, the,
the emotion isn't there. You feel detached, you uh feel more on edge than
normal. There's, there's something just off a little bit. And if you don't
notice it, maybe a loved one or friend does. Are you willing to at least
acknowledge that something is off? And number two, it just be open to seeking
help, seeking help might just start with having a conversation with a friend. It
might lead to a conversation with a therapist or a counselor. It might lead to a
conversation with a doctor. I don't know. Were you willing to at least have a
conversation? Because then that last component there is to commit to talking to
someone about it. You might be going through an unseen battle but don't go
through that unseen battle alone. There is reso there are resources available to
you to help. Remember they're just ABC and acknowledge that something's off, be
open to seeking help and then commit to talking to someone. And I think if you
do that, you can take a step down the path towards healing because we have a God
who is a healer, we have a God who meets you in the path, who meets you in the
trenches, who loves you and is with you. And I want you to know that while you
might not be feeling OK? It is OK and that God is good and God is with you and
that God has a purpose for you in this and that there is change, that is
possible and there is joy, that is possible. So not only do I encourage you to
take these steps? I want to really think through, ok. What does it mean back to
our big idea here that God cares for the whole person. So John, I'm afraid to
get help. I I don't like the stigma if I talk to a therapist or a counselor or
see a doctor, I, I don't wanna do that one of the common pictures that ex wife
shares with clients and things is that don't think of it like, oh, I need
therapy. Think about it as adding another tool to the toolbox. Right? When you
walk through life, you need different tools for different jobs, right? You might
need a screwdriver, you might need a hammer, might need a saw. You need, there's
different tools for different jobs in life. Well, if you seek help and
assistance, it's not because simply because you're in need, it's because you're
adding another tool to the toolbox that you can be more productive in this life
and, and, and experience life better, right? And so what we wanna do to end the
service today is we wanna actually help and give some initial ways to add some
more tools to your toolbox for you or maybe you have a loved one walking through
that. And I wanna share your two things with you and these two resources come
from people who are very close to the mental health issue. I want you to know
this too. That mental health is not a gauge of how close you are to God or not.
It strikes homes that are faithfully loving and obeying God and it strikes homes
of people who are far from God. Mental health does not discriminate the people
that it impacts. And I share that because Rick and Kay Warren Rick who wrote the
Purpose Driven Life at one of the most influential churches in the last 100
years has, has started a peace project, has started all these things. And in the
middle of all this, they, they lost their son to suicide over a mental health
issue 10 years ago. And I can tell you, there is no one who had more prayer,
more humility, seeking help in this family. And yet they walked through this
difficulty. And so in response to what happened and even in their grief, they,
they chose to use their grief to help and encourage others. And so out of that
launched the ministry connecting the church and mental health together. And so I
wanna share this incredible resource with you and it's free to download right
now. It's on the screen again. You can visit this uh download this from Mi
Mission grove.info. You got a QR code up on the screen there, save that. And the
reason this is so valuable, this is 100 page resource that you can download for
free. Some of the things that are in there. Uh signs of mental health types of
mental health definitions, descriptions, percentage of how many people it
impacts frequently asked questions, websites, resources, phone numbers, book
recommendations, scripts or verses. So, I mean, this thing is awesome. And so I
invite you to download that. Save that or if you're watching this later, uh go
to Mission grove.info, download it, save it. There's a button right there.
Mental health resource. Kit and know that you don't have to live in this
ambiguous question. You can actually read about these disorders and see actually
how common they are and signs to look for questions, to ask how to encourage
Children, how to encourage adults recommendations. Steps to take. And I love
that. And so we can't cover everything here in a 30 minute message. And so I
invite you to take, take this, download it, read it at home and know that there
is help available. So there's this resource right here. It's free for you. They
made it free for us. And so we share it with you to take that and share that
with those who might benefit from it. But then last, I wanna end, you end with
this. And while you might need to talk to a counselor, you might need to seek
some assistance. I want you to know that our thoughts sometimes lie to us. And
if you have feelings of like I hate myself that I don't matter that I don't fit
in that I want to give up that I feel useless. I want you to know that's not
from God. And I know that because the promises of God say differently. And if
you question your identity, if you're questioning, if you're feeling guilty, if
you're feeling shameful, if you're feeling worthless, understand that the God
who fearfully and wonderfully made you says differently and if I'm gonna trust
my feelings or the promises of God. I'm gonna go promises of God because your
feelings might lie to you. Your thoughts might lie to you. But the promises of
God were true yesterday, they are true today. They will be true tomorrow and
they will stand for all eternity. It is called the hope cycle. You can
screenshot this here. If you want the image, just put it in the next step card,
I'll send it to you or you can just Google ho the hope cycle and you can find it
up here. But it's these promises that when you feel like you hate yourself,
remind yourself that you are love that comes from first John 410, not that we
love God, but that he loved us so much that he sent his son Jesus to die on the
cross for us. When you're feeling like you don't matter. You can remind yourself
of Colossians 116 that He created all things visible and indi visible in heavens
and on earth where the Thrones dominions powers or authorities, God created all
things through Him. And for Him, you are created on purpose and with a purpose.
Church, when you feel like you don't fit in, you can remind yourself in Romans
12, 4 and five that we are all part of one body, different members, but we need
each other. And so yes, you belong. You don't need to believe to belong. You,
you belong because you are a child of God that He loved you first. And when you
are facing this idea that I wanna give in, I wanna give up. That's when we can
remind ourselves that you have a choice. That famous verse Philippians 413, I
can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Paul says, I understand
what it means to be needy. I understand what it means to have abundance and in
all things, I believe, you know, the characters of the Bible had mental issues
too, battles, they faced to depression and strength. If you look throughout
church history, some of the people who did the greatest things for God had the
darkest struggles when they were alone. God can use you. And if you feel just
useless, God doesn't understand me. God can't use me. I've made too many
mistakes. I struggle. I'm too worried, I'm too anxious. I'm too depressed.
Remind yourself that you were needed. Second Corinthians, 13 and four tells us
that we have the God of all comfort, but He doesn't just comfort you for
comfort's sake. It actually says in this passage that He comforts you so that
you may comfort all those who are afflicted. You wanna find meaning and purpose
look to encourage someone who's walking through the same battle that you've
walked through. You know what it means to someone when you can look in their
eyes and say, hey, I get it. I've been there. I know what you're going through.
I want you to know that God loves you, church, whatever you're walking through
today, know that God cares for the whole person that you are loved, that you
have purpose, that you belong, that you have a choice and you are needed.
Whatever unseen battle you're walking through. God sees it and we're here and we
love you and we want to help. Will you pray with me, dear Heavenly Father? We
shared about the principles of mental health. But I'm guessing that those who
hear it are thinking of a person thinking of uh themselves or a family member or
friend. This is very personal. But God, you remind us that you care about the
whole person for all that we are, that we are fearfully and wonderfully made
that we are to love you with all our heart, soul, mind and strength and to love
others. The way that you have loved us. Let us not be afraid to have difficult
conversations, let us seek help and have conversations that can help and let us
show up and listen and support those who are in need because we are the body and
while we are hurting God, you are here and you provide healing. So we lift up
our church and these people and our lives to you, God. And here says name, we
pray. Amen.